I can't believe you ate that entire package of bologna! We're out of bologna now!

You can make me happy.
No you can make me happy
No.... that one over there.
Leaning against the wall.
Unaffected and nonchalant

I bet you could do it.

Yeah I know that I am co dependent
But what else am I supposed to do?
Be lonely?

Listen, I'm a needful entity looking to lock in!
I find happiness in the form of others
... yeah others change
They change from one person to another...
...or they evolve within themselves...
But don't!
You stay right here!

Because I NEED you.

This relationship is my vehicle
My vehicle to happiness and Oneness.
So I DEMAND you stay the same
My perfect little statue man.
Or else I cannot be happy.
I. will. collapse onto myself like mudslide
Choking


And if you change,  and this relationship fails
Well that's YOUR fault.
Not mine....

What's
What's the screeching sound?

Sounds like a  table turning...

Are you saying your happiness depends on me?
This boulder is getting heavy!
And there's next to no sunlight down here.
You can't put that kind of pressure on me
There's clearly something wrong with you
You need a therapist.
And stop eating all the bologna you insatiable deli boy!
*looks for the exit*


Why do we want to be in relationships
Could it be the drama
The storylines
Our ego?

What can two bodies do but rub against the other?

Meet my new friends,  Alan, Eckhart, Pema, Ram, and Wayne.  Let's throw Brene in their too.

They say I don't ever need anyone or anything.
Everything I could ever need
Is already in me.
They say that when we use someone else
As a vehicle to happiness
It creates inside of us possession.
Fear.  Grasping

They're full of feces.

But I guess i'll keep reading about this....

They say that I don't need another person to be in love.
Everyone is my beloved.
I am already resting in a place of love.
There's nothing anyone can do to change that.

This idea of loving without attachment
How is this possible?
I want someone attached to me
Don't i?

Rihanna says "no matter what I do i'm no good without you"
Lady Gaga says "I want your drama... I want your psycho, your vertical schtick"
Foreigner says,  " I wanna know what love is and I want YOU to show me"
Bryan Adam's says  " you know it's true....EVERYTHING I do,  I do it for you. "

Really? EVERYTHING you do,  you do it for me?
EVERYTHING?

You know,  THESE sound crazier than loving without attachment.
THESE ideas have been drilled into  our psyche for as long as we understood language.

The first time I saw my mother crying because she's never been happy with my father. Never.
"Why don't you leave then?" I asked as I picked my nose,  eating my bologna sandwich.
"You don't just leave if your unhappy!"

It took me 30 years to understand .
When we don't NEED another person to feel love... happiness..... it's ONLY at this point can we share that love with another person without fear.
Without grasping.

You know that saying  when you love something,  you set it free?......

THAT'S dumb.
But it's true.
I call that DUMB TRUTH.

Baby i'm NOTHING without you.
Baby,  I need you.

No you don't.
What a relief for us all.
Give me a call when you learn to love yourself unconditionally.